Woman gets ready for date with Hinge match, then he sends a text with a request that has her flabbergasted: ‘This cannot be real life’
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Dating can be tricky, especially when it comes to putting oneself out there and finding “the one.” But what happens when someone “puts themselves out there” in a way that's off-putting?
A TikToker is going viral after sharing a pre-date text that made her cancel altogether. The text in question? A request for something out of left field that made her commenters “perplexed” and had some people dropping their jaws.
An offer she absolutely can refuse
Content creator Amanda Martinez (@amandalmartinezz on TikTok) shared a video that has more than 255,000 views. In it, she discussed a text that made her cancel an upcoming date.
“Up until this point, he had been doing everything that [I] had wanted him to do,” Martinez said in the video. “And then an hour and a half before [the] date, [I] get a text message from him that says, and I quote, ‘Just throwing this out here, you can totally say no though, what is the likelihood of the chances that you would ever be down to do shrooms and [engage in adult relations]?'”
In her caption, Martinez wondered if anyone else had experienced something similar, or if it was “just [her].”
“Naturally [I responded] with, ‘What about my Hinge profile would ever suggest that I would be down for such activities?'” Martinez said. “Because ultimately, you would want to change that really quickly.”
Apparently, he hadn't seen any indication on her profile that she'd be interested in his proposition. He said simply that “you miss a hundred percent of the shots that you don't take.” Then he continued texting her.
“Before [I] can block him, he says, ‘But don't worry, it would be with my best guy friends,'” Martinez said, grimacing. “‘They're good people and you'd be safe.'”
‘The way my jaw fell'
One commenter jokingly encouraged Martinez to “call the law.” Another wondered if the date's proposition stemmed from him secretly “[wanting] his friends.” Regardless, there was one throughline in the comment section of Martinez's video: viewers were floored.
“This went NOWHERE I thought it would,” one person commented.
“I physically cannot pick my jaw up from the ground,” another wrote.
“I thought he was going to ask if y'all could Netflix & chill… not THAT,” commented a third with a facepalm emoji. Martinez responded, “I thought that was gonna be my biggest issue” with a sobbing emoji.
Multiple women found one silver lining, though. That is, he communicated his true intentions before Martinez went on the date with him. He at least saved her from a potentially uncomfortable situation in real life.
“I'm happy he told you this before the date,” one woman commented. “All's well that ends well!”
“I'm so glad he mentioned this over text before you guys met,” another echoed. “I'm so glad you didn't have to be alone with him.”
Many viewers were critical of the state of the modern dating market — and the fact that Martinez had to deal with the situation in the first place.
“This is dating in 2026,” one commenter summed up. “I hope people realize this.”
Hinge profile tips: How to attract like-minded people
While Martinez and her match didn't click, there are ways to optimize Hinge dating profiles for more suitable matches. Additionally, many dating blogs have advice on how to avoid creeps.
Relationship advice blog LoveTango emphasizes the importance of showing multiple sides of oneself on a dating profile. Hinge users can answer prompts and include a variety of pictures. The more fleshed out the profile is, the fewer people will be able to fill in the gaps.
LoveTango also has some advice “to avoid creeps while online dating.” It all comes down to combing through a person's profile. The publication recommends looking through every picture, reading the other person's answers to every prompt and keeping an eye out for red flags during text conversations. The publication even recommends asking for a phone call or FaceTime chat to gauge a person's character before meeting in person.
Safety is a top priority in dating, especially since it often involves meeting up with strangers. Hinge has a community guidelines page, which recommends that users treat each other with “dignity” and “respect.” “Dater safety is a top priority. Meaningful connections happen best when people feel safe to show up as their full selves,” the dating platform's guidelines state.
Buzz News has reached out to Martinez and Hinge via email.
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