Los Angeles woman goes on first date. Then her date pulls a controversial ‘smooth’ move to get the elusive first date kiss
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A Los Angeles woman went on a date. Then she shared the “smooth” way her date approached a first kiss that made her comfortable. But viewers are divided.
Teck (@teckeffect), who is a “filmmaker, artist, & lover girl,” went on a solid first date that made her think the “Times are changing.” That's why when the man she was seeing for the first time leaned toward her and asked about her earrings, only to try to kiss her, she went for it. She posted about the situation on TikTok, and her video received more than 152,000 views.
Her commenters, though, argued that the first kiss would have never happened if she wasn't already into him. So what's the preferred gambit for making women comfortable on first dates, and what's the best way to approach first-date kisses?
The first-date kiss
A 2022 survey estimated that roughly 68% of Americans have kissed on the first date. Despite this, only 15% of individuals said that a first date was an “ideal” environment for a first kiss.
Teck said in a comment to Buzz News that she met the person she went out with in person while she was out on a girls' night. “We'd been on the date for about an hour before the kiss happened,” Teck added.
Teck explained that she normally prefers not to kiss dates before getting to know them better. “One thing about me is I don't like kissing on the first date because I don't know who that person is. Like, I don't know you,” she said in her video.
For those seeking a first date kiss, dating blogs and publications such as eharmony recommend maintaining eye contact and developing a rapport first. Being able to read a potential partner's body language and understand social cues are also important factors leading up to any intimacy. A crowded bar or a bustling cafe, for instance, may not be the best place to ask for a kiss or lean in for one. Being able to read subtle signals, such as light touches and occasional closeness, can also help inform whether it's the right move.
‘You fell right into that man's game'
Multiple viewers who watched Teck's post saw the interaction much differently than the TikToker. Many pointed out that the strategy of tucking a partner's hair behind their ear or touching a dangling earring is a practiced move. Establishing physical proximity by looking at a woman's earrings, adjusting her hair or even leaning slightly closer can help test the waters and see if a kiss would land, according to dating specialists such as Hayley Quinn.
“That's the oldest trick in the book,” one viewer said.
Another commenter said, “That comes from practice. Practice comes from experience. Experience comes from numbers. The writing is on the wall. This is the birth of a situationship.”
In her comment to Buzz News, Teck said, “I don't really take the comment section to heart because I was the one having the experience. I thought it was smooth. I wasn't aware it was supposedly ‘the oldest trick in the book,' but if it is, maybe we can bring chivalry back too. Haha.”
She also said, “I love collecting unique moments like that because they often end up inspiring my films and art. What I found interesting was how many different interpretations people had of the exact same moment. Some saw it as romantic, others saw it as calculated. I think that's why the video resonated. The conversation became less about my date and more about how people interpret modern dating.”
@teckeffect Times are changing
